Qυеѕtіοn bу sam: whаt ԁο i ԁο іf i find out mу father’s bееn fooling around?
mу dad travel’s alot fοr business аnԁ i know hе′s bееn fooling around bесаυѕе ive found a woman’s pic. іn hіѕ handphone, ѕοmе condoms іn hіѕ bag аnԁ i even found hіѕ profile οn ѕοmе dating website. plus hе аƖѕο watched porn οn thе net bесаυѕе i found thе links οn hіѕ laptop once. i dont want tο tеƖƖ mу mom coz i dont want tο brеаk hеr heart аnԁ ive bееn keeping thіѕ tο myself fοr quite ѕοmе time now bυt i cant hold іt аnу longer. i cant see mу dad thе way i used tο anymore.
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wow. im sorry to hear this i cant believe some fathers can do this. but if you can no longer hold it in. it will make you even more upset if you dont say something. Talk to your mom its going to be harder if she finds out later. and she will be more heart broken thats for sure but thats why you have to be there for her. There are many solutions to the problem but your parents need to work them out that is if you decide to tell your mother.
Talk to him first. Tell him what you know, ask questions, and then say what you don’t like. Don’t feel like spilling the beans quite yet because you might not know the bigger picture… such as one that a divorce might already be ensuing… and your mom may know already. Understanding first should be key here.
talk to your dad. if that doesnt go anywhere, tell your mom.
Be in relaxed state. When you can see these things, your mom also had seen it and taken it granted. You can understand at present what porno is. You must had seen porno. How can you compel your father not to see porno.
Get relaxed. Divert mind in education and carrear. It is enough for you. The porno seeing is no longer satisfy any person and it will be given up in some time. The extra marital relation can not satisfy as your mom satisfy your father. Do not give any attention to such abnormal activities such activities will be given up by your father very soon if warm releationships will be developed again among your family
tell your mom…she deserves to know…and she deserves a better man if your dad refuses to stop this crap…good luck to you and I hope you find a good man for a husband instead of one like your dad…please tell her…everything will be ok eventually =)…maybe she does know…and does not want to hurt you…so, tell her you know anyway, no matter what! As far as the porn goes…that makes him an unfit father for having it on the computer for you to see…I am assuming you are under 18???
If your dad is really cheating, then your mother probably already knows. Besides, you shouldn’t have been looking through your father’s things in the first place.
The things you found could be purely innocent. And a lot of men look at porn who never cheat on their wives. Short of catching your dad in bed with another woman, I’d leave the whole thing alone, if I were you, and mind my own business.
That is, unless you don’t mind seeing your parents divorced and finishing your childhood in two separate houses. The divorce will probably be really expensive and your mom will most likely have to struggle to make ends meet.
Ask yourself what possible good can come of talking to your mom about this. Go over all the consequences of her knowing your suspicions. Worst case scenario: your family is broken up and, if you have younger siblings, they could blame it all on you. If those are consequences you can live with, go ahead and talk to your mom or dad.
I honestly feel there is nothing you can do other than just to confront your dad and mom together about this. Your dad just might deny it, or he might come clean and admit it and makes promises not to do it again, but this will only teach him to be more careful and discreet. I believe your mother already has her suspicions but is choosing for now not to deal with it. As much as this hurts you, after doing this you need to leave your parents marriage alone for them to work out.
I would sit down and have a talk with my Dad. I would let him know that I know his little secret, because the same way you found out , your mother can find out to.
I’m sorry that you are in this situation. I was there myself once, 18 years ago. You should sit down and talk to your mom alone about what you have seen and found. I know you don’t want to hurt her, but don’t you think it’s better that she knows the truth? After that it will be up to her and your father to decide what to do. As far as how you see your dad, I’m not sure if that ever fully goes back to normal. Right after I found out about my dad, I wanted nothing to do with him. Things have gotten better, but they never went back to how they were before. Good luck.